So, you and your partner are finally taking the plunge and moving in together. Congratulations! Cohabitating with your SO is a major milestone in any relationship and, as such, comes with a host of exciting new changes and challenges.
And while the hardest part of moving in with your significant other might seem like sharing a bathroom, for many couples the greatest (and most unanticipated) challenge is actually designing their new shared space.
Moving in with a significant other is a big life event, so it’s understandable that it might stir up some anxiety. Couple that with the stress of purchasing furniture that meets both of your styles and budgets, and you really have a recipe for potential conflict.
Before you spend a miserable afternoon fighting over a rug in IKEA, read these 5 design tips for couples from Modsy’s VP of Style, Alessandra Wood. We’re talking about ways to combine design styles peacefully and create a space you both love.
1. Plan to Purge Equally
Once you move in together, you’ll likely discover you have double the furniture you need. That means you’ll need to decide what to keep and what to toss. And while you might have better taste than your partner, they might think the same things about your choice of furniture as well.
Instead of hashing out whose stuff moves into the new place and whose gets posted on Craigslist, one of our favorite design tips for couples is to agree to purge equally.
This can mean going through items piece-by-piece and deciding whose is in better condition or will work better in your new place. Take a critical look at knick-knacks as well, and consider only displaying the ones that are meaningful to both of you. Or, consider scrapping it all and only taking what you absolutely need to furnish your new place for the short-term.
This is your opportunity for a fresh start, so the goal of your purge should be to take what works, and leave the rest behind so you can begin to design a space that both of you love.
2. Align on Your Shared Vision
Before you get caught up in the design details, have a conversation with your partner about what each of you values in your home.
What do you want to use the space for? What are your must-haves and your hard-nos? And where are you willing to compromise?
Hash out these big-picture ideas before you talk specifics, and find the points that you both agree on. Starting from a place of mutual understanding can be super helpful before you begin to make style and purchasing decisions.
3. Explore Your Styles
Once you’ve cleared away your old furniture, you can begin to explore what interior design styles you want for your new home together.
Take a tour of your Pinterest boards and explore the possibilities for your space together. We also recommend to couples is that they take our Modsy Style Quiz. This will help give you an understanding of each other’s tastes and can help you think about how to merge them together into one look (yes, we promise it is possible!).
4. Find Ways to Merge Your Tastes
You like mid-century modern but your partner likes industrial? Try looking for pieces with a modern shape but in raw materials, like leather and metals, to satisfy you both. Their style is glamorous but yours is minimal? Maybe stick to a neutral color palette but incorporate chic materials like velvet and gold.
There are so many ways to mix and match even the most opposite of styles. Find what you both like and where you can start to merge your tastes together.
5. Show off Your Ideas
Sometimes the best way to convince your partner that a certain style or piece of furniture will look good in your space, is to show them.
Create a visual representation of your ideas to show your partner, be that a Modsy 3D design of your actual home, a moodboard, or ordering fabric samples and paint swatches.
So many of our customers tell us that they were able to get their partner on-board with their vision after showing them exactly how their idea would look before committing. So whether you want to try a bold wall color, velvet sofa, or a totally new layout idea, we can help you see it come to life before it comes to life.
Visualizing your ideas can help you both feel more confident about your design choices, which in turn helps relieve the stress of making big-ticket purchases.